“Where are my FEMINIST SISTERS?”
It is the first sentence in a friend’s Facebook status update. I look around my living room expecting to see Maya Angelou or Gloria Steinem forward roll into the room like the cops do on television. They don’t. I take my clenched right fist out of the air and turn back to my laptop.
Her post continues, “This is DISGUSTING!” She is referring to an article entitled, “Lingerie for Girls as Young as 4 Irks World.” I read the words out loud to myself but I struggle to comprehend the meaning. The words cause a mental block and I cannot fathom a visual. My mind says, “Those words do not belong together,” and it violently rejects them!
“Someone is making a lacy bra and panty set for my four year old baby girl!?! Who in the (censored) thought of this? Why do they have a(censored) job? Why do they have a (censored) place to live? As a matter of fact, why are they still (censored) breathing?” Instantly, I conjure images of leading an angry mob complete with torches and pitchforks up to this company’s front door.
A follow up to the post includes information about Thylane Lena Rose Blondeau. She is a 10 year old model featured all laid out in French Vogue. Go ahead and dismiss me as an overly fearful helicopter parent who hovers too protectively over my daughter. Based on the image of Thylane, it looks as if she needs a mother or at least one adult in her life to get their helicopter on!
“We have to do something about this! We can no longer sit by and pretend we don’t see darkness! It is our job to be the light,” I cry out to my empty living room! (For the record, the sofa looked pissed and the coffee table was ready to take it the streets!)
Little girls always emulate their mothers. I clopped around in my mom’s stilettos with her purse hanging from my shoulder down to my knees. My little girl swipes a squirt of my perfume when no one is looking and has been discovered in the midst of rummaging through my makeup case to see all the goodies inside. Emulating is a normal, healthy way for a child to discover who they are and where they fit.
But, my friends let us not confuse a child emulating adults with adults who sexualize children. Sexualizing a child is an act forced upon a child. It is molestation through images. IT IS SEXUAL ABUSE!
When an 8 year old can have a “push up” bikini top, a 6 year old can have “Shape-Up” sneakers, and a 4 year old can have a bra, we ALL have a problem. We pass laws about what adult can marry what other adult but on this, we do NOTHING? We must stop pretending we do not see the darkness that stares us right in the face. The darkness of the world counts on us “regular people” to do NOTHING! I say, we can do better and we must!
I do not need to tell you the companies guilty of these crimes against our babies. You already know them. You see their ads and shutter. You wince and resolve yourself to make sure it never happens to your child. We shake our heads knowing some mixed up adult (who should not have been able to procreate) will buy this for their child, but we take comfort in saying, “But not my kid!” Well here’s what we have been overlooking. ALL OF THEM ARE OUR CHILDREN!
From this moment forward, I refuse to buy from stores that use sexualized child models to promote their products. I refuse to buy from vendors who make products that sexualize children, even if the product I need to purchase does not. I refuse to purchase any publications by the publishing company that distributes any such questionable material.
STARVE THEM TO DEATH!
Will my one woman boycott change the world and stop the growing number of pedophiles feasting on the flesh and spirits of our babies? No. I am not naïve. But this is my chance to look in the face of daughter and say, “With all of my power, I am trying to create the type of world you deserve to inherit!”